How to Prepare for a Mediumship Reading | Before & After

Booking a reading with a Psychic Medium can be filled with excitement and nervous anticipation of what will happen. You may wonder, will my loved one even come through? What types of information will be shared or not? I like to validate these feelings as well as reassure you that Mediumship is a healing modality meant to uplift and support you. It's not a cure for grief, but it can provide great comfort and peace on your grief journey.

While there's a potential for personal topics to be touched on, my intention is for a client and their loved ones to receive meaningful connections and loving messages. I enter each reading with compassion and nonjudgmental presence. I read how I like to be read for and do not share future based predictions that elicit unnecessary fear or anxiety.

Remember that mediums are human, and no reading is ever 100% accurate. While this is true, I still believe that the majority of your reading should resonate for you. If a reading isn’t feeling right for any reason, please let your medium know. It’s okay to stop a connection if it doesn’t feel right for you. Mediumship isn't an exact science and it’s possible a reading may not work for many reasons. It’s rare, but sometimes I have to stop a reading if it’s not a good fit that day. Before your Mediumship Reading Here are a few suggestions to prepare yourself and hopefully get the most out of your Mediumship reading:

1.     The day of your session you can speak to or mentally invite your loved ones to join you, although they will probably be aware you booked a reading! Keep in mind that sometimes a Spirit loved one you didn’t expect may come to strengthen the energy for the person you are most hoping to connect with.

2.     Prepare several questions or intentions you'd like to focus on. Questions are regularly answered without your needing to ask them out loud. I prefer to leave some time at the end of the session for any questions that were missed.

3.    Find a quiet place to center yourself, and if you have time, journal or meditate on how you're feeling and what your expectations are. You can honor what you're longing for as well as release what doesn't need to go with you into the session.

The more open and relaxed you feel in your mind and heart, the more fulfilling the reading and the potential for specific details can easily flow. Mediumship is a 3-way communication between the medium, your loved ones in Spirit, and you. I suggest taking a few deep breaths and doing your best to allow the reading to unfold for the highest and best good.

After your Mediumship Reading I hope your mediumship reading feels validating, inspiring or comforting knowing your loved one's presence lives on with you. Here are some reminders to reflect on as well as simple suggestions to support you after your session:

1. Again, it’s normal to feel a mix of emotions before, during, and after the session closes. It’s okay to feel both enlivened and emotional, especially when something touched upon was personal in nature. Still, when you tap into the energy of the Spirit World, it’s encouraging to know there is a healing force flowing and available for you. At its essence, mediumship is healing, and the energy may be felt up to several days after the session.

It's helpful to talk to trusted friends or family members about your reading or journal your thoughts and feelings as they arise. Allow what wants to be released to do so. If you’re in need of professional support, I have a resource list of grief providers I’m happy to share with you. No matter where you are on your journey, you deserve safe spaces to be seen and to express yourself.

2. Notice how you’re connecting with the information over time. When you revisit your notes or a recording of your reading, you may find something you missed the first time. Maybe you need to check with family or friends about things that are unknown. Are there certain messages or pieces of information that “click” more now than in the moment? This is natural, as our minds are processing a lot in a single session. Remember that the heightened and healing experience of mediumship will slowly integrate within you, and different aspects may resonate more with you at certain times.

It’s important to reflect and give yourself time and space to let everything sink in, especially when making any life changes or decisions. Continue to feel into whether the information shared aligns with you and your own intuition.

For my clients, you are always welcome to stay in touch and share your insights & connections with me.

3. Continue your personal connection with Spirit if it feels right for you. Whether that’s through writing a letter to your loved one, creating an altar, a memory book, or simply speaking to them every day, remember that a reunion reading is a powerful catalyst for deeper communication to unfold, but it’s not the only way.

Your loved ones are often reaching out to validate your connection as well. Pay attention to any signs and synchronicities that appear after your reading and make sure to write them down to honor the new language you are learning together.

I deeply hope your reading touches your life in a meaningful way, and that your eternal relationship with loved ones in Spirit continues to bring peace and wellbeing.

All my love,

Danielle

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Are My Loved Ones in Spirit Aware of Things I'm Not Proud Of?

Your loved ones in Spirit are not prying or entering private moments that disrespect you and your need for privacy or alone time. Although they have access to more information about you and your life, they do not abuse this power and can only receive what you are open to and ready to share with them. It's valuable to remember how much they love and respect you, especially if you're concerned about them discovering things you don't want them to know. From what I understand through Mediumship readings and communicating with loved ones on the Other Side, Spirit cannot force themselves into your everyday life without your permission and welcome acceptance of their presence. They may perceive certain dynamics, challenges, emotional states, and questions that are running more often in your energy field, as well as what you are excited about, milestone moments, and how you are continuing to grow and evolve. An exception may be if you are in danger, and they are able to influence certain outcomes to protect you from Spirit. This isn't a guarantee, and should never be expected, as you are still responsible for making informed decisions as best as you possibly can.

Loved ones also receive specific thoughts & prayers to them, shared memories, letters, or anything done in their honor because there is a clear intention to connect at these times. They access direct communications from you in a stronger way because of your desire to speak to them and have them participate or respond back to you. There is always a potential for deeper intimacy and devotion to expand, and for them to know private details that are meaningful between you. But this develops through safety, trust and patience as your telepathic language grows organically over time. Spirit Loved Ones are not judging you for actions or behaviors you may not be proud of before or after their passing. They love you unconditionally and accept you for all you are. They see your humanity in anything you perceive as a mistake or a flaw. This is not to justify detrimental or destructive behaviors but is offered as a way to encourage compassion and love where it may be needed most. Loved ones do this more freely because they went through a similar process in their Life Review as they crossed to the Spirit World. They also have regular opportunities to learn how to forgive and love themselves and are ready and willing to help you do the same. Spirit goes with you wherever you are and experiences life through your eyes in so many miraculous ways. But remember, there are limits to the types of information they can perceive and when. Certain barriers are placed for reasons they must respect. If a boundary is crossed, it’s as if they are choosing to exacerbate their own karmic “debt.” This strongly demonstrates the significance of the golden rule in the realm of Spirit and how what we do to others is ultimately what we do to ourselves.

Our loved ones in Spirit are not perfect, they are not automatically a guru or an ascended master after their death, but they are gaining valuable experiences in areas that were particularly challenging in their life as well as becoming more of who they truly are from a soul level. Through the eternal bond of love you share, their intention is for you to feel more of this love and also what’s best for you and your well-being. They are continually seeking uplifting ways to assist you on your journey while helping you build a vital relationship with them in Spirit (if that’s what you choose as well). Your loved ones are around you in times that are meaningful as well as mundane, but they do not cross boundaries that would cause harm or even embarrassment. If they were a jokester in life, they may like to surprise you and have fun sending you signs that are playful/humorous as evidence of their personality living on and shining through. I also like to remind clients that their loved ones in Spirit are not purposefully trying to scare them with their presence. If you become afraid for any reason, mentally tell them to try a different way of communicating or simply ask them to back off the intensity of the contact. This is very common in the beginning because your loved one may be excited to show you just how active they are in your life and are doing their best to get your attention. Other loved ones in Spirit believe certain phenomena may be too stressful or has the potential to disrupt a previous paradigm or belief system, and they don’t want to take that risk. This may leave you wondering if they are around you, even when they are! I notice this type of Spirit will come through a reading in considerate ways that build up as you acclimate to their very powerful presence. I find they are gentle not because they are shy (although this could be the case for some), but actually because they have such a strong soul energy. I hope this blog provided clarity or a sense of reassurance on this topic, as there is so much out there that can cause confusion or even harm to people who are just beginning their journey connecting with loved ones who have passed.

If you have questions or topics you would like me to address in a future blog or video, please let me know by messaging me or writing in the comment section below! With love always, Danielle

Why Don't I Receive as many Signs or Dream Visits from my Loved One in Spirit?

Receiving clear signs and vivid dreams from a loved one who has passed confirms that their soul is alive and present with you, and this is especially comforting in the early stages of a profound loss. So, it is a completely normal and valid question to wonder why the signs or dreams have stopped. Maybe you worry you have done something to push them away, or that their presence is fading because they have moved on in a way you can’t recognize.

If your communication feels like it’s changing, it doesn’t mean your loved ones aren’t close to you. You aren’t doing anything wrong, and your grief doesn’t block them. I believe grief has the potential to open you to the sacred because by its nature it strips you of your armor and all that was known before. You may even become more sensitive to signs from Spirit in this tender, broken-open heart space.

I acknowledge this is not the case for everyone, but it is something I’ve regularly witnessed in my work with clients over the years. It definitely happens the other way around too. At first the signs may be subtle or seemingly non-existent but develop and strengthen as you grieve over time. Keep in mind, grief is as unique as a fingerprint, and so the way you connect with your beloved ones will be highly specific to you as well. If you received early dream visitations and are concerned that they have stopped, this may be a surprising indication that the relationship is maturing, and you are spiritually developing together. I want to remind you that your loved one has not disappeared. It’s normal on the spiritual path to go through “dry spells.” If you've depended on the nourishment of certain signs or dream visits, most likely you’re going through an uncomfortable period of being weaned off the familiar form of communication so you can strengthen other approaches that may not be as natural for you.

Your loved one may also be hiding in the exact place where personal growth is happening. As shifts and realizations are made, they will often emerge feeling closer to your heart than before the previous cycle of development. Trust in your relationship’s organic expansion and contraction as it is a sacred rhythm between you. Your loved one always remains with you, but the amount you receive a consistent sign may decrease as you adjust to a different communication style or evolve in new ways on your personal/spiritual journey. A decrease in signs means your relationship is deepening at some level, maybe it feels internalized, but this is just as valid and important. I acknowledge that adjusting to the change can feel like a shock or a betrayal in some cases. Perhaps you feel you already lost them physically, and now it may seem like they’re lost to you in Spirit. You can never lose your loved one in Spirit, and they cannot be taken away from you. Your bond of love is eternal and will never die. Allow the subtlety to remind you that your relationship is evolving and refining the next potential for expansion that awaits you. If you tend to receive a lot of signs in the external world (number sequences, animal messengers, synchronous events, etc.) maybe you notice you’re now receiving their thoughts telepathically. You receive a thought from them that feels like your own, but you just know that it’s something they would say to you. Much like you had to develop trust in your previous way of communicating, you are being asked to have faith in subtle forms that push you past your comfort zone.

Dreams are desirable because they are so vivid, and you wake up feeling like the experience was more real than waking life. As dreams become less frequent, perhaps you are being asked to unfold your emotional (clairsentient) communication and to trust in the nostalgic feelings that seem to spontaneously rise up in you. Maybe you feel a brush of air on your back at the exact moment they pop in your mind. You start to feel and sense their energy in a room rather than rely on the intensity of a dream visitation to know they are with you.

There are also practical reasons signs may decrease for a while. If you are going through a major life transition, your life circumstance is literally requiring you to focus more on yourself and the physical world for a time. Of course, they move with you through this transition. Yet they are fully aware of the need for you to be in the world and respect the boundaries and periods of adjustment that are required. Perhaps you’re planning a wedding, you’re pregnant, starting a new job, raising young children, moving to a new home, etc. Similar to personal and spiritual transformation, milestone events require a lot of energy and focus as you move from one way of being into the next.

You may wonder why they seem to disappear in times that are exciting for you. Believe me, they are extremely celebratory in Spirit! They are not only aware of the event or milestone itself, but how you are changing and deepening into who you are. Be open to them supporting you in multifaceted ways because you are also evolving into a fuller expression of yourself!

I hope these reminders are helpful when communication with your loved one seems to be non-existent, stagnant or in a state of transition. It’s my honor to hold space for your fear and concern while also bringing through the healing messages I am privileged to witness in sessions with clients.

Your loved ones in Spirit are forever loving, guiding, protecting and growing with you in every season of your life.

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All my love always,

Danielle