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Why Don't I Receive as many Signs or Dream Visits from my Loved One in Spirit?

Receiving clear signs and vivid dreams from a loved one who has passed confirms that their soul is alive and present with you, and this is especially comforting in the early stages of a profound loss. So, it is a completely normal and valid question to wonder why the signs or dreams have stopped. Maybe you worry you have done something to push them away, or that their presence is fading because they have moved on in a way you can’t recognize.

If your communication feels like it’s changing, it doesn’t mean your loved ones aren’t close to you. You aren’t doing anything wrong, and your grief doesn’t block them. I believe grief has the potential to open you to the sacred because by its nature it strips you of your armor and all that was known before. You may even become more sensitive to signs from Spirit in this tender, broken-open heart space.

I acknowledge this is not the case for everyone, but it is something I’ve regularly witnessed in my work with clients over the years. It definitely happens the other way around too. At first the signs may be subtle or seemingly non-existent but develop and strengthen as you grieve over time. Keep in mind, grief is as unique as a fingerprint, and so the way you connect with your beloved ones will be highly specific to you as well. If you received early dream visitations and are concerned that they have stopped, this may be a surprising indication that the relationship is maturing, and you are spiritually developing together. I want to remind you that your loved one has not disappeared. It’s normal on the spiritual path to go through “dry spells.” If you've depended on the nourishment of certain signs or dream visits, most likely you’re going through an uncomfortable period of being weaned off the familiar form of communication so you can strengthen other approaches that may not be as natural for you.

Your loved one may also be hiding in the exact place where personal growth is happening. As shifts and realizations are made, they will often emerge feeling closer to your heart than before the previous cycle of development. Trust in your relationship’s organic expansion and contraction as it is a sacred rhythm between you. Your loved one always remains with you, but the amount you receive a consistent sign may decrease as you adjust to a different communication style or evolve in new ways on your personal/spiritual journey. A decrease in signs means your relationship is deepening at some level, maybe it feels internalized, but this is just as valid and important. I acknowledge that adjusting to the change can feel like a shock or a betrayal in some cases. Perhaps you feel you already lost them physically, and now it may seem like they’re lost to you in Spirit. You can never lose your loved one in Spirit, and they cannot be taken away from you. Your bond of love is eternal and will never die. Allow the subtlety to remind you that your relationship is evolving and refining the next potential for expansion that awaits you. If you tend to receive a lot of signs in the external world (number sequences, animal messengers, synchronous events, etc.) maybe you notice you’re now receiving their thoughts telepathically. You receive a thought from them that feels like your own, but you just know that it’s something they would say to you. Much like you had to develop trust in your previous way of communicating, you are being asked to have faith in subtle forms that push you past your comfort zone.

Dreams are desirable because they are so vivid, and you wake up feeling like the experience was more real than waking life. As dreams become less frequent, perhaps you are being asked to unfold your emotional (clairsentient) communication and to trust in the nostalgic feelings that seem to spontaneously rise up in you. Maybe you feel a brush of air on your back at the exact moment they pop in your mind. You start to feel and sense their energy in a room rather than rely on the intensity of a dream visitation to know they are with you.

There are also practical reasons signs may decrease for a while. If you are going through a major life transition, your life circumstance is literally requiring you to focus more on yourself and the physical world for a time. Of course, they move with you through this transition. Yet they are fully aware of the need for you to be in the world and respect the boundaries and periods of adjustment that are required. Perhaps you’re planning a wedding, you’re pregnant, starting a new job, raising young children, moving to a new home, etc. Similar to personal and spiritual transformation, milestone events require a lot of energy and focus as you move from one way of being into the next.

You may wonder why they seem to disappear in times that are exciting for you. Believe me, they are extremely celebratory in Spirit! They are not only aware of the event or milestone itself, but how you are changing and deepening into who you are. Be open to them supporting you in multifaceted ways because you are also evolving into a fuller expression of yourself!

I hope these reminders are helpful when communication with your loved one seems to be non-existent, stagnant or in a state of transition. It’s my honor to hold space for your fear and concern while also bringing through the healing messages I am privileged to witness in sessions with clients.

Your loved ones in Spirit are forever loving, guiding, protecting and growing with you in every season of your life.

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All my love always,



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