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Are My Loved Ones in Spirit Aware of Things I'm Not Proud Of?

Your loved ones in Spirit are not prying or entering private moments that disrespect you and your need for privacy or alone time. Although they have access to more information about you and your life, they do not abuse this power and can only receive what you are open to and ready to share with them. It's valuable to remember how much they love and respect you, especially if you're concerned about them discovering things you don't want them to know. From what I understand through Mediumship readings and communicating with loved ones on the Other Side, Spirit cannot force themselves into your everyday life without your permission and welcome acceptance of their presence. They may perceive certain dynamics, challenges, emotional states, and questions that are running more often in your energy field, as well as what you are excited about, milestone moments, and how you are continuing to grow and evolve. An exception may be if you are in danger, and they are able to influence certain outcomes to protect you from Spirit. This isn't a guarantee, and should never be expected, as you are still responsible for making informed decisions as best as you possibly can.

Loved ones also receive specific thoughts & prayers to them, shared memories, letters, or anything done in their honor because there is a clear intention to connect at these times. They access direct communications from you in a stronger way because of your desire to speak to them and have them participate or respond back to you. There is always a potential for deeper intimacy and devotion to expand, and for them to know private details that are meaningful between you. But this develops through safety, trust and patience as your telepathic language grows organically over time. Spirit Loved Ones are not judging you for actions or behaviors you may not be proud of before or after their passing. They love you unconditionally and accept you for all you are. They see your humanity in anything you perceive as a mistake or a flaw. This is not to justify detrimental or destructive behaviors but is offered as a way to encourage compassion and love where it may be needed most. Loved ones do this more freely because they went through a similar process in their Life Review as they crossed to the Spirit World. They also have regular opportunities to learn how to forgive and love themselves and are ready and willing to help you do the same. Spirit goes with you wherever you are and experiences life through your eyes in so many miraculous ways. But remember, there are limits to the types of information they can perceive and when. Certain barriers are placed for reasons they must respect. If a boundary is crossed, it’s as if they are choosing to exacerbate their own karmic “debt.” This strongly demonstrates the significance of the golden rule in the realm of Spirit and how what we do to others is ultimately what we do to ourselves.

Our loved ones in Spirit are not perfect, they are not automatically a guru or an ascended master after their death, but they are gaining valuable experiences in areas that were particularly challenging in their life as well as becoming more of who they truly are from a soul level. Through the eternal bond of love you share, their intention is for you to feel more of this love and also what’s best for you and your well-being. They are continually seeking uplifting ways to assist you on your journey while helping you build a vital relationship with them in Spirit (if that’s what you choose as well). Your loved ones are around you in times that are meaningful as well as mundane, but they do not cross boundaries that would cause harm or even embarrassment. If they were a jokester in life, they may like to surprise you and have fun sending you signs that are playful/humorous as evidence of their personality living on and shining through. I also like to remind clients that their loved ones in Spirit are not purposefully trying to scare them with their presence. If you become afraid for any reason, mentally tell them to try a different way of communicating or simply ask them to back off the intensity of the contact. This is very common in the beginning because your loved one may be excited to show you just how active they are in your life and are doing their best to get your attention. Other loved ones in Spirit believe certain phenomena may be too stressful or has the potential to disrupt a previous paradigm or belief system, and they don’t want to take that risk. This may leave you wondering if they are around you, even when they are! I notice this type of Spirit will come through a reading in considerate ways that build up as you acclimate to their very powerful presence. I find they are gentle not because they are shy (although this could be the case for some), but actually because they have such a strong soul energy. I hope this blog provided clarity or a sense of reassurance on this topic, as there is so much out there that can cause confusion or even harm to people who are just beginning their journey connecting with loved ones who have passed.

If you have questions or topics you would like me to address in a future blog or video, please let me know by messaging me or writing in the comment section below! With love always, Danielle


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